Want to unlock real depth and clarity in your tarot readings?
It all starts with the questions you ask. How you phrase your question is like setting the table for a good meal—the better the setup, the richer the experience with your cards.
Why does phrasing matter?
Tarot isn’t about fortune-telling or locking yourself into some “fixed” outcome. Think of it as a conversation with your own intuition—an opportunity for fresh insight, not rigid predictions. The questions you ask will literally shape the quality of what comes through.
- Open-ended questions are gold. If you’re stuck on yes/no stuff, you’re leaving wisdom on the table.
- Vibe check: Are you asking for genuine insight, or just wanting reassurance? The cards can tell.
Common Tarot Question Mistakes (And How To Dodge Them):
- Yes/No or “tell me my fate” questions: Stuff like, “Will I get promoted?” or “When will I meet my soulmate?” shuts down options fast. Instead, ask questions that open up possibilities and direction.
- Asking about someone else’s mind: “What is X thinking about me?”—nope, that’s a fast track to projection and confusion. Turn the lens on yourself.
- Negative or anxious tone: If your question is marinated in fear (“Why hasn’t she called?!”), it’s going to color the reading with that same anxious flavor. Shift it to curiosity or growth.
How to Upgrade Your Questions:
- Start with “What,” “How,” or “Why.” Example: Swap “Will I get the job?” for “What can I do to stand out in my career search?”
- Keep the focus on YOU. Try: “How can I show up better in my relationship?” instead of “Why won’t my partner change?”
- Stay positive and empowering. Instead of “Why is everything going wrong?” ask, “What lesson is this challenge offering me?”
- Stay present. Avoid “When will X happen?” Go for “What do I need to know about this situation right now?”
- Ask for a new lens, not a crystal ball. Example: “What perspective will help me move forward from this?”
- Always address your question to someone or something.
Example: “Dear Lord,” “Hekate, unconquerable queen of witches,” or “Dear Deck of Cards.”
Quick Rephrasings:
- Instead of “Will I get promoted this year?” try “What can I do to move forward in my career?”
- Instead of “Does my ex miss me?” try “How can I heal and move forward from my breakup?”
- Instead of “Should I quit my job?” try “What are the pros and cons of making a change now?”
- Instead of “When will I meet my soulmate?” try “How can I become ready for healthy love?”
- Instead of “Is my partner cheating?” try “What can I do to foster trust and connection?”
Little Rituals, Big Difference:
- Set an intention. Meditate, breathe, or jot your question down before you draw.
- Don’t overcomplicate. Start with a daily one-card pull, or try a three-card Past-Present-Future spread for context.
- Use a deck that feels right to you. There’s no “one size fits all” here.
Final thought:
Tarot isn’t here to hand you answers—it’s here to hand you a flashlight. The right questions don’t just reveal what’s hidden; they help you choose your next move. Keep it open, honest, and focused on your own growth. That’s how tarot becomes a true conversation with your higher self.
Want to try rewording one of your own tarot questions? Drop it in, and let’s tune it up together.